New questions: Connection to Israel - nostalgic, romantic VS never coming back, and why. have you been in a relocation before that, have you been to relocation during your childhood? what was the reason for your relocation? how was the family reaction for the relocation? Sensory: connection to smell, senses - music from the guitar, relations to food - losing/gaining weight, meditation - peace and quite/group sessions connection to time and compass Interviews: S lives in London for 3 years, came with her partner and 2 small girls. planned the move for several years, came highly prepared, with EU passport (hers) The move was immigration and not time limited relocation. So she immediately started to look for a job. She considered the first year as hard but wonderful. She felt she was able to fit in better than her partner, and that caused some tension as well. Going over the timeline of their relationship - she is able to identify specific moments that were significant for the breakup. When leaving in Israel they were experiencing some relationship problems but was able to maintain them, using many friends and family support and as a buffer. Once they moved to London, they were just the two of them and there was not many friends, family or other buffers in their relationship. Sensory - Music and songs: S is very connected to Israeli music. while leaving in Israel she was part of a band that performed covers of Israeli songs (as a hobby). She quit the band before the move, and she misses the sing-a-long of the Israeli songs. She was looking for something similar here but couldn't found, so she decided to learn how to play the guitar, as part of her recreating her musical experience from Israel. She feels the music saved her life. At first when they got separated she felt lost, didn't know who she was, she felt very stressful and disconnected and couldn't concentrate on anything, the only thing that she was able to concentrate on was practising her guitar, it's a meditative tool she was able to use and enjoy and help her overcome the stress she felt. She keeps practising and playing the guitar with the same devotion. Photo albums - when they got separated, she was obsessed with her photo album, she brought with her just a few when they moved to London, she misses photo and photo album, that she can hold and not just view digitally, the physical touch of the photos - from her childhood but not only. After the separation, she felt she became more possessive about her CDs and photo albums Therapy: After several months in London, she felt they have been having conflicts regarding the children, so as S initiated, they started going to parenting sessions. After few session, she realises from the interaction between them that they are not connecting at the same level and felt they need to go to couple therapy first so they sort their differences in a natural environment before going to parenting classes. After 6 months of couples therapy, she came to the decision that they grew much apart and that she wants out of the relationship. She confided it with her partner, but her partner was not able to contain the end of their marriage. During the therapy, they started separating their life, S moved to live in the workspace of the house, they continue living together and will stay like that for the next six months as well. It's been very hard on both of them. They are doing sort of a "nesting" setting adding to it, living under the same roof. S became very protective about her privacy in the house. She organized the workspace to fit her needs after she understood she doesn't want to stay married to her partner, she bought a real bed to replace the folded bed, and furniture to suit her room, so she can feel comfortable since she is going to stay there for a while. Mantra
Throughout the therapy, she had this self-soothing mantra:
"it's temporary and I've got the power" Translated from Hebrew:
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