T has been living in London for the past 16 years, she moved back to Israel 2 years ago, and experience a very hard time, so they moved back to London after a year.
She counts two hardships in her migrated life:
The first one was when she moved to be with her partner for a year, and they decided to stay for good. She was very alone, she didn't know anyone the community, the area they lived in was quite rough, no Jewish or Israeli community.
She was trying to get pregnant, and got pregnant right away but unfortunately had a miscarriage that was traumatic for her physically and mentally. after that, she couldn't get pregnant for ten years. both of them were very devastated, but during that time, she was feeling very optimistic, she knew that no matter what, she will become a mother, she will do whatever it will take.
When we reached the age of 40, we decided we will do everything they can to have children, they felt it was their deadline, and they found surrogate and had a triplet before she turned 41. She and her partner were very determined to have the children. She remembers it was new years eve of 2013, and they decided together that this time they are going all the way and will do whatever it takes so they will have kids until the end of the year.
They took two surrogate and both got pregnant, and gave birth the exact same time, at the same hospital.
The babies that were born from a non-Jewish surrogate mothers were not Jewish and they had to convert to become one.
She wanted to have them Jewish because she wanted them to be Jewish since their parents are Jewish and it might cause them a problem in the future if them being Jewish can be questioned.
Now they are obligated to go to an orthodox school which was not the way that she wanted to raise them but it actually turned very well, because the school is fantastic and they in different classes, and the school is very well established and she feels the children receiving the best education. she is not upset that she was forced to send them to this school because she is very happy for them to be part of this wonderful school and community.
She was actually very happy with the support from the orthodox they worked within Israel that assist them with converting the children to Judaism.
She moved to Israel 2 plus years ago, as Alyia, her husband never lived in Israel, only visited many times, he converted to Judaism in Israel many years ago, and planned to move and live there, but ended up staying in London and working here.
When they moved to Israel, they experienced culture shock. She was in charge of everything, he was still going back and forth to London, and they bought and a house and renovated it. They employed builders and workers who gave them a very hard time, explicit language, threatening and extortions. She had a scary and horrible year and came back to London traumatized. It was a bigger trauma then not be able to get pregnant for ten years.
We sold out house in London, did Alyia to Israel, bought a house, renovated it and ran back to London after a year.
The children received a very low-quality education, and the children experienced a hard time in their school. She knew if she will stay longer in Israel she would become sick - physically and mentally, She received a lot of alternative medicine support while we were in Israel because she was in such a bad condition. A year afterwards and she and her husband are still talking about that every evening. Yesterday was the first time they talked about their experience with more forgiving.
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