SG M+@ London 20 months
responded to my fb post and seemed eager to meet, we met and after an uncomfortable moment, she started to talk. She was very open to sharing her story, and it seems like this is part of her being open and honest about herself. Her hardship is connected to the difficulties her children are experiencing due to the move, she was the one who initiated the move to London so she can't stop feeling responsible and blaming herself for every difficulty, her family experience from the time they have been here.
SG is a very strong person, she had a miserable childhood that affects her perspective on her family, her responsibility to their happiness together with being very open and reflective on many aspects of their behaviour, from her childhood.
She was talking about the difficulties that her family experiencing and from her story, I can see that her difficulties are coming from it, and from her guilt about their difficulties since she keeps blaming herself for initiating the move.
They all moved with EU passport but without jobs waiting for them. She was a math teacher back in Israel, and here she works as a teacher in the Jewish community and she is studying now to be a math teacher for GCSE. Her husband is working in a software company. They are both fine with their jobs but not very happy with the life here, mostly due to difficulties to find friends and community.
S initated and was very active toward the move. She came one time before to look at schools and houses, and chose an area that has a large Israeli and jewish community.
She was talking the whole time about the difficulties that her family experience, and hardly about hers, she was able to articulate exactly what is wrong and what needed (in her mind) to fix that and everyone will be happy.
Going back to visit Israel, was very hard for her. She was unhappy with the fact that everything didn't stay at the same place, and kept moving, people moved places, children grew up and so on. She reflected in on her childhood memories, and her feeling sometimes like she was the only "real person" in her life and everything else in her surroundings was part of the theatre set.
Support:
While she was working in a kindergarden, she met an older women that she felt very easaly attached to, and kept somekind of relationships with her. When she fels her daughter need support with her difficulties in school, she started taking her to this women as part of art therapy sessions, and they became very attached, slightly grandmother relationship, which she was lacking.
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